Nowbeing (the pursuit of calm) is a kind of focused attention that allows us to see the internal workings of our own minds. Simply, it will improve our ability to be (increasingly) aware of our mental processes without being swept away by them. This process, when practiced as a daily lifestyle pursuit, enables us to get ourselves off the autopilot of ingrained behaviours and habitual responses, and guides us beyond the reactive emotional, self-perpetuating loops we all have a tendency to get trapped in.

 

It gives us an opportunity to “name & tame” the emotions we are experiencing, rather than being overwhelmed by them, and thus, a slave to the behaviours that follow when our “untamed’ emotions and responses invariably escalate.

 

Practicing calm is simply a focusing skill – a skill that makes it possible to see what is inside, to accept, and in the accepting to let it go, and, finally, to transform.

 

Think of ‘calm’ as a lens to view the mind with greater clarity – and with greater clarity we can then dive inside and explore our own inner lives, to examine and question closely the process by which we think, feel, and behave. This process alone allows us to reshape, recalibrate and redirect our inner experiences so that we have greater control of how we respond to the world around us, and more freedom of choice in our everyday actions, more power to create the future, and to become the author of our own story.

 

It is only by developing the ability to focus our attention on our internal world, can we begin to apply the intention to what we truly value, and then apply the necessary exertion (disciplined, deliberate repetitive practice) to our virtues (thinking and doing habits and behaviours) that support our efforts to reach our values (life goals, self awareness, life fulfilment).

 

NEXT: Minimalism: A Strategy For Calm.

QUESTION:
If you remain on your current life-trajectory (the choices, habits and behaviours that make up your lifestyle now) what will you regret when you’re older?