As Benjamin Franklin said “Happiness consist more in small conveniences or pleasures that occur every day, than in great pieces of good fortune that happen but seldom.”
The Danish and Norwegian’s have a word Hygge (pronounced ‘Hoo-Guy’) which means to give courage, comfort and joy.
Central to their culture, ‘Hygge’ is about giving your stressed-out self a break, to live in the moment and relish and savour your immediate surroundings and environment, including your mind. (Reference: Thomas Oppong)
The irony is not lost when advocating a new routines or rituals that will propagate opportunities to calm the mind… my days are hugely busy and now I need to consider a new routine to my already busy daily schedule?
Annoyingly, the answer is yes, we do need to find time to not only self-reflect, but also to create self-awareness to take purposeful action, and remind ourselves to stop, capture and savour moments throughout our day.
This is mindfulness in the real-world.
This is a learning self-patience and self-discipline
As Anna Quindlen (author of A Short Guide to a Happy Life) says “…you are the only person alive who has sole custody of your life…”
There is only one person that can dictate the choices in your life and that is YOU…unless you have young children…then you have no life, and hence, it’s even more of a reason to make sure you can create ‘moments’ that bring a sense of relished joy and, dare I say, happiness to your world …a feeling closely tied to being relaxed, happy, content and at peace with yourself.
Happiness is a habit, and not a destination.
To be happy, you need to be actively involved in the direction of your life. This means you being responsible for the daily actions and habits that make up your day to day life trajectory. Being that we are a sum result of our re-occurring behaviours and actions, doesn’t it make sense to self-audit and evaluate what makes up your current trajectory and see where improvements can be made.
This is the first step in not only correcting your life trajectory for the better, but moving towards being happier, more content…more Hygge man.
No one can be truly happy if they do not feel that they are choosing the course of their own life.
And happiness, in my book, is exactly that…not only choosing your own life, but our ability to persevere and overcome the inherent obstacles and challenges that present themselves in the life you have chosen.
Ultimately, and without wanting to sound like a shelf-help (not a typo) woo-woo-guru, the source and pursuit of happiness, being content and response-abled to deal with life’s obstacles, lies within, and through incremental daily self-care disciplines and your ability to harvest purposeful actions from it.
An inability to foster our own self-care can potentially manifest into self-rewarding routines, where our actions and habits become compulsion-driven “life-medications” (food, booze, gossip, porn, shopping) rather than procuring actions and behaviours that nurture us and champion our cause to become better individuals.